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MY CLIENT JUST MADE A CLOSE FRIEND IN A WEEK... <3

I swear... Introverts who have overcome social anxiety can become the most social people on the planet.

My client (who used to have crippling social anxiety) met someone on a friend app last week...

They scheduled their first meeting for Sunday...

Before their meeting, my client and I had a coaching session to discuss what perspective to take.

My client decided to be completely honest and just let everything out...

No filters...

No pretending...

No small talk...

No lies...

And now they are writing each other letters as if they had known each other for years. lol

I also developed this ability after I recovered from social anxiety... the ability to make close friends faster than one could blink an eye. :)

After spending years in the prison of social anxiety...

Once the dam is broken...

There is no stopping us...

We become friend-making machines!

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There is no description of "introvert" on the internet that describes "social-anxiety-survivor introverts" at all...

This ability to...

Love people...

Be honest with people...

Connect with people...

And become their friends...

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Social anxiety is the self-protection mechanism we use when we love too much... in a society where people love too little...

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After having recovered from social anxiety...

Yes... I sometimes fell on my face...

Yes... I sometimes overshared to someone who was completely incompatible... and I had a vulnerability hangover the next day... 😂

But, I also developed the ability to make close friend after close friend after close friend...

And you can too...

Just like my client just did.

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To the love underneath social anxiety...

A love that is so great...

So powerful...

So beautiful...

And just what this world needs! <3

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Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)

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HOW THE "BATHROOM BREAK" HELPED ME OVERCOME MY SOCIAL ANXIETY <3

My solution to Social Anxiety was "Honesty, Love, and Acceptance". However, really should rename it:

"Honesty, Love, Acceptance & THE BATHROOM BREAK" 😆

And this is why...

My solution to social anxiety was learning to alternate between Honesty, Love, and Acceptance...

Here is how it worked with close friends...

1. LOVE

I met up with my friend and told myself "LOVE HER". This prevented me from going into fear. <3

2. HONESTY

Whenever I had a feeling or thought that was getting in the way, I would tell myself "BE HONEST"... and I said whatever was on my mind... which reduced my anxiety and shame.

3. ACCEPTANCE

Whenever my anxiety symptoms came back for a visit, I would tell myself, "ACCEPT THEM" and I would focus on Love & Honesty instead.

HOWEVER... Sometimes, my anxious thoughts and symptoms stayed and stayed and stayed... and no amount of Love, Honesty, or Acceptance could get those f*ckers to go away!!

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So, THAT is when I implemented the BATHROOM BREAK.

I would find some way to tear myself away from the situation (which was difficult because I was a people-pleaser)... and go to the bathroom.

I would sit on the toilet seat... whether or not I actually had to go... and I asked myself...

"What are you REALLY feeling?"

"What is REALLY going on?"

And within 2 minutes, my INTERNAL HONESTY would come through. I would realize...

- "I am tired and I've had a bad day."

- "I am ashamed about what happened in the store earlier today."

- "I am sad that this friend didn't invite me to her event last week."

So, although THIS had been my ACTUAL emotional state, I had not been acknowledging it.

I had been putting on a cheerful demeanor and trying to have a fun time...

I had NOT been applying the principle of HONESTY at all!!

So, I would go back to my friend, and I would say...

- "I'm really tired, and I have been having a really bad day."

- "I feel so ashamed about what happened at the store earlier today."

- "I'm think I'm kind of sad that I didn't get invited to your event last week... I don't want be sad... but I think I am..."

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Now the emotion I had on the outside represented the emotion I felt on the inside, which simplified my heart and head... We got into an amazing conversation... we connected on a deeper level... and I felt NO MORE ANXIETY AT ALL. <3

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Sometimes it is difficult to access our honesty inside the social situation because our brain is so occupied with the conversation.

This is why the bathroom break is so powerful!

We take a break from our "fake, anxious, people-pleasing, striving" performance... and we access our honest self. <3

And we can then re-enter the social situation... and be more honest with others and with ourselves.

I hope you found this helpful. :)

Let me know if you'd like me to help you overcome your social anxiety or any anxiety... using this extremely powerful approach.

To your awesomeness...

Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)

VERS: Minap kudarcba estem...

THE OTHER DAY I FAILED...

I forced myself to do something...

Though I was way too tired...

I could hardly speak...

Couldn't focus...

Got more and more nervous...

Totally BOMBED the task... :(

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Will it happen again?

What if it happens now?

Or now?

Or now?

Or now?

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THIS is how anxiety begins.

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What if it was a fluke?

What it doesn't matter?

What if everyone fails some of the time?

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The other day I failed...

And I WILL fail again...

But instead of it ruining my life...

And my connections...

And my dreams...

And my sanity...

And my job...

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What if I could wake up tomorrow morning...

And tell the world that I failed...

And that everyone fails...

But that I'm going to pick myself up...

And keep moving forward anyway.

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Honesty heals

So many of our wounds...

As long as we can accept

that we failed. <3

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Marni Penner

A Kanadai Coach :)